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The movie of King Kong is an elaborate allegory of spiritual evolution so we can understand the mythical quality of this story which also underlies the Lord of the Rings, the Beauty and the Beast, Cinderella, Cupid and Psyche and Sleeping Beauty.

We understand from King Kong what ancient symbols have been telling us of the hundred percent split nature of humanity and the necessity for purification, integration  and going higher through meditation.

Ancient knowledge of Splitness, the universal split nature of humanity through DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder)  and MPD (Multiple Personality Disorder)  shown and proved by the 10,000 year old images of the split animal-human or ego-soul of the Centaur, Sphinx, Minotaur and Phoenix.

Or Anne Darrow-King Kong or Gollum-Frodo or Cupid-Psyche or Beauty-Beast or Sleeping Beauty-Prince or Cervantes Sancho Panza-Don Quixote and Frodo-Sam.

The Ancient Mythical quality is first announced in the 1933 version and the 2005 versions of King Kong by the Sufi Saying…

And the Prophet said, ‘And lo, the beast looked upon the face of beauty. And it stayed its hand from killing. And from that day, it was as one dead.’

King Kong is the ego, mirrored by Carl Denham the Director. Anne Darrow the beautiful, the beloved, is the Soul and her beau, Jack Driscoll, is God - someone she looks up to.

Symbolisms- Carl Denham-Ego, Anne Darrow-Soul, Jack Driscoll-God

Peter Jackson’s King Kong has many references to “Heart of Darkness”, such as a scene on the ship where Jimmy holds a copy of the book by Conrad, also the text behind Francis Ford Coppola’s Apocalypse Now, and says “It’s not an adventure story, is it?”

KING KONG IS NOT JUST AN ADVENTURE STORY.

This sentiment is echoed by Hayes in a voiceover as he quotes Conrad, “The earth seemed unearthly… We are accustomed to look upon the shackled form of a conquered monster, but there, there you could look at a thing monstrous and free.”

As King Kong itself is a story of the egoistic cruelties of men and of King Kong himself, the film suggests that Conrad meant to explore human cruelty of the cruel ego towards others as much as he meant to explore the Belgian Congo - and thus also the film is more than an adventure story but also explores the human ego’s will and cruelty to exploit others.*

Carl Denham, the Big Kahuna Ego of the New York Jungle where he is at the top of a society filled with misery, poverty and hunger. He beats off the attack of his three tyrannosaurus Producers and escapes to Skull Island in search of an edge.

There King Kong falls in love with Anne Darrow and Anne Darrow, his soul, understands the necessity of being protected by the ego as King Kong protects her from the three tyrannosaurus rex’s-just as the Carl Denham-Mr Ego, had protected her in New York from the Burlesque, hunger, and the three producer tyrannosaurus rexes wanting to stop the picture she was going to star in.

Back in New York, King Kong makes the Carl Denham Ego number one, feted and admired by the Producers who originally had wanted to stop his picture and career.

Jack Driscoll says in an accusation made of Denham after he has captured Kong and put him on display like a circus freak - he so often “destroys the things he loves.” Which often happens with many poor films, “Full of sound and fury, signifying nothing!!” - Shakespeare, “Which everyone can see for twenty-five cents.”  Carl Denham.

But which also echoes the love of Anne Darrow for that which protects her. Yet she must kill in order to ascend higher.

Jack Driscoll was quoting Oscar Wilde’s “Ballad of Reading Jail”…
“Yet each man kills the thing he loves,
By each let this be heard,
Some do it with a bitter look,
Some with a flattering word,
The coward does it with a kiss,
The brave man with a sword! ”

King Kong escapes with his Anne Darrow soul up the Empire state building which symbolizes the Rainbow Bridge, the pathway to heaven.

The Hindu’s have a name for this  tower, “The Antahkarana” which is the psychic construction which ties all the chakras together as well as that which connects us above the head with the soul chakra and then with God.

With more spiritual energy, as we ascend to heaven, the selfish competitive ego drops away and our soul  essence connects with God.

In deep love. With the energy of deep love which we the audience feel. Impregnated into the Movie, the energy of Love flows, and as Anne and King Kong lingeringly look at each other as he dies and falls into the corruption of New York city below.

As Anne rises to her feet, at the top of the highest skyscraper, she turns to find her lover, Jack Driscoll, who symbolises God, and who has come to take her higher. She no longer needs to descend into the mire. She can stay in heaven and live happily ever after.

This is the same story as Jackson’s Lord of the Rings. Half of Gollum’s split personality says, “We would not have survived if it had not been for me”. The other half says, “Now we have Master, (Frodo, the Master, represents the Soul) we do not need you any more, Go away and never come back!” Yet we have to wait for the end of the picture for Gollum to fall, taking with him the evil Ring, down into the crack of Doom, leaving the Frodo Soul much purified, ready to take the next step higher as he sails off with Gandalf (God) towards the Undying Lands (Heaven).

Down in the New York mire or Hell, Carl Denham looks at his ruin in the ruinous death of King Kong.

Police Officer Lieutenant: Well, Denham, the airplanes got him.
Denham: Oh, no. It wasn’t the airplanes. It was Beauty killed the Beast.

And so we understand the mythical quality of the story which underlies the Lord of the Rings, the Beauty and the Beast, Cinderella, Cupid and Psyche and Sleeping Beauty.

We understand that ancient symbols have been telling us of the split nature of humanity and the necessity for purification and integration. Of going higher with the 10,000 year old images of the split animal-human or ego-soul of the Centaur, Sphinx, Minotaur and Phoenix. Or Anne Darrow-King Kong or Gollum-Frodo or Beauty-Beast or Cupid Psyche or Sleeping Beauty-Prince.

But let us not miss the point the meaning and significance of this history. The ancient stories and myths underlying King Kong, The Lord of the Rings, Apocalypse Now, Catch 22 and so many others point to a trauma disappointment formed splitness in the personalities of all humanity as being the cause of all evil on this planet for thousands of years.

They also teach of the Integrating techniques of Meditation, Energy Enhancement and the underlying techniques of the Kundalini Kriyas, The Five Element Circulations of the Qi or Chi or Kundalini Energy, the Alchemical Meditational Formulas or Guided Meditations of Hermes Trismegistus as a means of overcoming this trauma formed splitness which is the cause of Universal DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder)  and MPD (Multiple Personality Disorder).

Meditation and the higher techniques of Meditation are the cure of all splitness.

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“The force and degree of a man’s inner benevolence evokes in others a proportionate degree of ill-will”   - Gurdjieff

“Evil people always hate those at the opposite end of the moral spectrum” - Earl Spencer at the funeral of Lady Diana

“The Radiance of the Buddhafield irritates or depresses or upsets Negative Energy Blockages, and by these fruits, ye shall know them!”  Satchidanand

Masters show you the Energy Blockages of the ego. With the Meditational techniques of Kundalini and Blockage Busting, it should be an easy matter to remove the blockages.

Gurdjieff, whilst manifesting himself with this inner benevolence, his radiant Buddhafield, this inner radiation which is called love, the energy of change, he tried in every way to de-crystallize the already crystallized vanity and conceit in people; and this made enemies for him.

People forgot what Gurdjieff had done for them in removing their illnesses, their psychic blockages and in personal help, and remembered only their hurt vanity. Perhaps, if  people knew that Gurdjieff was going to show them their touchy points directly then they would react in the correct way of thanking him for finding their energy blockages so that with advanced blockage busting techniques they could release them.

However, unless people know that they need to want to lose the ego, unless they really want to become good people, there is no point in going to see a Master. Gurdjieff would just blow these bad types of people off as quickly as possible so that he would not be wasting his time.

There is always a battle twixt good and bad in all. Most of the time people are distracted by their bad sides and give in to anger, jealousy and pay back. All the bad sides of the selfish competitive ego.

Gurdjieff was well known for his “Toasts to the Idiots!” where he asked new students, and older ones, what kind of an idiot they were. And when they had no reply, he told them. And this information could tell much of the inner blockages and psyche of the student and could help him much. The student’s reaction also revealed his inner self.

For example, Frank Lloyd Wright, the famous American architect, was visiting Gurdjieff in Paris as his wife was one of Gurdjieff’s pupils and had stayed with him for some time.

One of the students there that night knew Lloyd Wright and expected to hear some interesting questions and answers, but he said Wright behaved like a brilliant undergraduate, and it was clear that of real spirituality, he knew nothing.

He seemed to regard Gurdjieff as having achieved almost the same level as himself, even though knowing more about some things than he, Wright did. It is sometimes gratifying to discover that “great” men have their weaknesses, their vanity and self-love, the same as oneself; and, “I noticed that when Mr. Gurdjieff provoked Wright’s prickly vanity, something malicious in me had a feeling of mild satisfaction”.

During the toasting of the idiots, Wright said, “Mr. Gurdjieff, I’ve found some of these “Idiots” very interesting, I’ve invented some myself.”

Reading Beelzebub’s Tales to his Grandson to the assembled people, Wright said, “This is very interesting Mr. Gurdjieff. It’s a pity it’s not well written. You speak English very well. It’s a pity you can’t dictate. If I had the time you could dictate to me, and I could put it into good English for you.”

Gurdjieff had told him to read a section of Beelezebub which was telling Wright about his own internal weaknesses in the guise of talking about someone else, which is the normal technique of a Master. Wrights selfish, vain and competitive ego could not take it.

Then Wright said that he must stop reading because he was very tired, - which occurs when an ego blockage has been encountered, - his daughter was very tired and that he had better go back to the hotel. Gurdjieff said, “Better stop for her sake, she is still young and only begin, but you are old man and your life is finished!”

Wright got red in the face and said angrily, “My life is certainly not finished, there’s plenty I can do yet.” or words to that effect. He got up and left with his family in what is called, “High Dudgeon!”

“Like every one of us in front of Gurdjieff, Wright’s mask came off. Everyone, without exception, whilst eating and drinking with him, revealed his essential self.”

Gurdjieff says that our early education gives rise to the impulses of Vanity and Self-Conceit and he affirms that happiness in life and good relationships with all depend on an absence of the feeling of vanity and self conceit, touchiness, within ourselves. Touchiness is the symptom of a psychic energy blockage.

So, one of the tests of being with a master is not to react to these tests of vanity and the ego but to use the reaction to clear the blockage with advanced blockage busting techniques. Your ego reactions will show you where the ego blockages are. No reaction to the Masters probes can only be achieved when the ego is no more.

Thus touchy reactions are a tremendous help in the movement to Enlightenment, which only occurs when no energy blockages remain.

Such shocks, created by Gurdjieff, were introduced to show you your ego weaknesses.

But very few understand the real work of the Masters which is to help you remove the blockages of the ego. Everything they do is devoted to that aim. And very few selfish competitive egos can stay in the presence of true love…

For very deep and powerful Energy Blockages Gurdjieff said one must meditate with a Master of Meditation, within his Buddhafield. Let the Master do the work!

Or one must learn very powerful blockage busting techniques. Then, like Alexander the Great, you can learn how to cut the blockage Gordian Knot with your Manjushri sword of Discernment!

Usually, the necessary solution is a mixture of both being with a Master of Meditation, and learning advanced Blockage Busting techniques yourself.

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Of course, one may and probably should make contact with their own religious leaders; but unfortunately, doubt and disbelief in faith may cause anxiety for the bereaved and they feel afraid or ashamed to approach within their own religious affiliation.  Knowing that counselors with a working knowledge of their beliefs as well as others’ beliefs who can work with and guide their clients in an atmosphere of understanding, can be a tremendous boon to society in general.   In general, people want to live within the dogma of their particular faith; however, many seek a “filter” from the concentrated dogmatic approach of their religious leader.  For many, a strict dogma may be too overwhelming to deal with on top of healing through their grief.   Metaphysical Counselors can become a dampening field or liaison.  By keeping the spiritual aspect in mind throughout the guidance process, while not forcing strict adherence to a particular code of conduct.  Once the healing is progressing, the counselor can then help support the gradual reinstitution of the bereaved back into their religious practices.  The Metaphysical Counselor, in no way, is trying to change a person’s beliefs.  They work with a person’s beliefs not against them, by acting like a safety net.

Hopefully, many other spiritual counselors within a society will understand and support the Metaphysical Counselor and the purpose of their aid.  With any luck, the counselors within a community may set up a network with which to not only learn about the beliefs of others for understanding, but also to help one another by helping the community as a universal spiritual society.  The diversity of society and the human race as well as the unique thought processes of each being requires alternative viewpoints and approaches to reach the same information.  This social network of counselors can provide these alternatives with personal insight and experience.

I use a quote from John E. Welshons in his book, “Awakening from Grief”, 2000, as an underlying theme when providing comfort and guidance through the grieving process,  “Each person who enters our life, and every experience we have is a teacher.  Some things we learn about ourselves amaze us.  Some trouble us.  But through it all, each relationship continues… Everyone we have loved has become a part of us… And no relationship, created in love, can ever die…”

A Metaphysical approach to spiritual grief counseling grants the practitioner the capability to aid and guide bereaved or grieving members of the community through an ability to relate with a broad scope of knowledge pertaining to spiritual beliefs’ view of death and dying.  This knowledge allows the practitioner to adapt their counseling techniques more easily to those of differing belief systems.  Though individual beliefs have infinite possibilities, grief is an emotion that is experienced universally.  It is said that no one can be an expert in grief counseling, as no two people deal with grief in the same manner.  One can, however, become an expert at being a comforting spiritual presence with an open mind and an even more wide-open heart.  With continued pursuit and exploration of counseling techniques as well as staying informed and aware of differing spiritual beliefs in the community, Metaphysical counseling provides a lifetime of learning while at the same time growing both socially and spiritually.

Development and use of a personalized Metaphysical approach to grief counseling, or even spiritual counseling in general, can have a profound impact in one’s community as well as society.  The universality of grief and the inescapable reality that everyone will have to face and heal through their own grief at least once in their life enhances the status of a spiritual guide through such seemingly dark times.  As for a Metaphysical Counselor, the sheer diversity of belief structures that exist within one’s own community and the ability to adapt an accommodating rationale to guide the bereaved to heal through their grief creates an almost indispensable asset to society.

Dr. Huggins is a Graduate of The University of Metaphysics with a Doctoral Degree in Metaphysical Counseling and a Masters Degree in Metaphysical Science.  He is a co-founder of http://www.sekhemonline.net/.  Dr. Huggins also creates hand made spiritually-inspired art and gifts through Scintilla Artwork.

In the use of these communication skills as well as active listening and attending behavior in general, sometimes it is necessary to phrase things in the form of questions in order to draw out the client’s feelings and emotions.  There are two types of questions; closed and open.  Closed questions are those that can be answered with a “yes” or “no” answer.  In a Metaphysical Grief Counseling session, closed questions are not very helpful in drawing out feelings, but may be used to clarify a statement.  If a counselor poses too many closed questions, the session feels more like an interview.  Open questions are questions that demand no “right” answer.  They tend to be open-ended and based on opinion.  Open questions allow for the exploration of thought and emotion that the bereaved may be experiencing.  They help create a discovery process.  With open questions, an intimacy is created within the session that allows for vulnerability and trust to develop.  This trust develops a warmth and progressive acceptance of what the client is experiencing and allows the client to see the counselor as caring and genuinely sensitive.

Some forms of questions, both open and closed should be avoided.  Leading questions place the client in a bad position.  For example, “Are you still beating your wife?” immediately puts the client in a negative light.  Value-laden or moral-driven questions should also be avoided.   Asking, “So do you feel like a murderer since you had the abortion?” immediately passes judgment by imposing personal morals and denotes inferiority.   Questions that seem confrontational should be avoided as well.

Making reassurances in the client is highly encouraged as well as reinforcing the positive within the session itself.   Identify the positive attributes of the client by using attending behavior when the client makes a discovery about himself.

It is often immediately after a funeral that those grieving will experience the greatest sense of loneliness.  This is when the bulk of the grieving process takes place.  Beginning a few weeks after a funeral, a Metaphysical Counselor should remain in regular, but not constant, contact.  This may be no more than an email, or a brief phone call, but it something to let them know they are not alone.  A counselor should also be aware of well-meaning friends and relatives who try to distract the bereaved from their pain by “keeping them busy.”  This is very counter-productive to the grief healing process.  When necessary, the counselor can explain this both to the bereaved and their well-meaning distracters.  It is a spiritual as well as psychological truth that the only way to get through pain is to “heal through” the pain, not try to avoid it.  Provide the client with an atmosphere suitable for emotional release.  Emotional release means that the emotions become free to respond to any given situation with what that situation actually calls for.  Instead of repressing it, the Metaphysical Counselor is allowing the bereaved to surrender to the expression while it is happening and letting it takes its course freely.  The counselor helps the client maintain as much of a state of openness and acceptance as possible.  Allowing the emotional release to show the client what it has to teach.

Taking into account any knowledge that a specific belief has regarding death and the afterlife, a Metaphysical Counselor can guide a client through communication, both verbal and non-verbal.  Clients with different beliefs are no different than those of familiar religious persuasions in that they too go through the stages of grief.  Even a
belief in the afterlife and reincarnation does not completely eliminate the feelings of loss, loneliness or depression.  There are many beliefs on what happens to the soul after death.  When working with those grieving from the loss of a family member or friend, various beliefs in the afterlife will come into play.  Understanding these beliefs and acknowledging them in the client are key factors when establishing a plan of healing and release.  For example, for those that believe in reincarnation, the parents of a child that has passed on can take pleasure in knowing the child will probably see this plane again in another life through reassurance of the Metaphysical Counselor.  A Metaphysical Counselor helps to affirm the faith, however weakened, of the client.  To do this, constant study of other beliefs is necessary to maintain applicable knowledge.  Wayne W. Dyer wrote, “Affirm your faith not your doubt.  Faith is the complete reliance on the power and goodness of spirit and that you are always connected to this goodness.  The ability to know faith and affirm it allows it to manifest in your life.”  The counselor is there to guide them back to affirming their faith in order for it to manifest and help them heal through their grief.

This has been but a brief and by no means exhaustive overview of the subject of Metaphysical Grief Counseling.  Although many excellent and scholarly texts have been cited, the literature on the subject is growing.  We do not have to be trained psychologists to provide helpful Metaphysical and Spiritual guidance, but we do need to learn, study, and expand our own awareness and experience, so that we can more adequately and efficiently be counselors.

Dr. Huggins is a Graduate of The University of Metaphysics with a Doctoral Degree in Metaphysical Counseling and a Masters Degree in Metaphysical Science.  He is a co-founder of http://www.sekhemonline.net/.  Dr. Huggins also creates hand made spiritually-inspired art and gifts through Scintilla Artwork.

The overall goal of Metaphysical Grief Counseling is to help identify and solve problems of separation from the lost person or loved one.  In grief counseling, talking about the lost individual is highly encouraged to determine if an expected amount of emotion exists about the loss.  Throughout counseling sessions, the mourner may see that anger, guilt, or other uncomfortable or seemingly negative emotions exist at the same time as more positive feelings about the person who died and that this discovery is quite common.  Strong emotional reactions occur when the bonds of affection and attachment developed through a lifetime are broken.  After a loss certain tasks must be completed in the healing process.  These include: accepting that the loss has occurred, adjusting to life without the loved one, and establishing a continuing relationship with the loved one and going on with life.

Counseling a bereaved person is perhaps one of the most difficult things to do.  People are naturally uncomfortable around the bereaved.  They do not know what to say to console the griever for fear of hurting them more or upsetting them.  Often nothing needs to be said to the bereaved to make a positive impact with them.  Some seek counseling.  Sometimes, just being present, or sitting with them, offering a hug, or other forms of support is all that is needed.  Every person handles loss differently.   A good Metaphysical Grief Counseling session is an in-depth discussion exploring the client’s feelings and beliefs surrounding the loss, and actively seeking solutions to the problems that arise.

The primary skill for a Metaphysical Counselor to develop is active listening.  Active listening is exactly what it sounds like, actively listening and paying attention to the clients and their needs.  It also involves paraphrasing and summarizing the client’s emotions back to them to help the client express what they feel or believe.  An active listener also asks questions to achieve a better understanding of what emotions and beliefs are being relayed.

Along with active listening, attending behavior is also an essential skill of a Metaphysical Counselor.  Attending behavior consists of non-verbal communication such as:  smiling; leaning forward; maintaining eye contact; and keeping the body square to client.  A client is less likely to “open up” if the counselor sits with arms or legs crossed in a defensive posture or leaning away from the client as it creates a sense of separation at a time when sincerity, compassion, and affection are most needed by the client.  A bereaved person is more likely to respond if the counselor conveys respect, openness, and friendship.  Both active listening and attending behavior support and build empathy with a client.

Active listening and attending behavior consist of several other communication skills that professional counselors have found helpful in establishing empathy and building a rapport with their clients.

Reflecting is an attempt to reflect the feeling or emotions sensed from the non-verbal cues of the client.  If the client has a fearful look while discussing a past experience, the counselor may say something like, “I bet you were scared when that happened.” or ask “Were you afraid?” in order to acknowledge the non-verbal cue.

Clarifying is an attempt to make vague references and statements more specific.  If the client said something like, “Something horrible happened when…”, the counselor may ask for clarification by asking, “What horrible happened?”
Focusing is an attempt to focus on one specific part of a statement.  The client is recalling what they did one night, and the counselor decides to focus on one specific incident that occurred that night.

Paraphrasing is the rewording of a client’s statement in an attempt to focus on the main elements.  For example: A client states, “My heart was pounding.  I ran as fast as I could.  I broke out in a cold sweat.”  The counselor may paraphrase, “It sounds like you were really scared.

Summarizing is repeating back to the client the key points of the discussion.  This is much like paraphrasing but occurs at the end of a longer discourse.

Dr. Huggins is a Graduate of The University of Metaphysics with a Doctoral Degree in Metaphysical Counseling and a Masters Degree in Metaphysical Science.  He is a co-founder of http://www.sekhemonline.net/.  Dr. Huggins also creates hand made spiritually-inspired art and gifts through Scintilla Artwork.

Building a basic understanding of the cultural and spiritual dynamics of one’s community is an essential block in the foundation of Metaphysical Counseling.  During the grieving process, people usually come to an “outside” counselor because one of their primary types of relationships is not working.  The development of spirit rests in the four major relationships we hold which can be categorized as:

1. Relationship with self;
2. Relationship with family and/or friends;
3. Relationship with God or Gods;
4. Relationship with community.

Usually the reason someone will seek outside help to rebalance his or her soul is that one (or more) of these four relationships is not working.  Typically, the person feels that their needs are not being met by the relationship or are confused about what is expected.  Primarily for a Metaphysical Grief Counselor, the relationship with God or Gods comes into question; particularly, what is expected of the bereaved in the relationship with their beliefs.

The Metaphysical Grief Counseling process tends to follow a pattern of:

• Interviewing the bereaved;
• The discovery process where the counselor collects information about the problem in session;
• A formulation of action to help the grieving person heal through the grief.

Particularly in the first few meetings, the counseling sessions begin by building a sense of trust between the client and the Metaphysical Counselor.  The counselor must create an atmosphere in which the client feels safe; safe enough to disclose feelings, thoughts, emotions and fears.  People need a safe warm environment to discard the protective wall of the psyche and allow themselves to be vulnerable to another.  This creates an intimacy within the counseling session.

Several factors must be considered by the Metaphysical Counselor in order to establish a trusting relationship with the client:

Empathy - The ability to identify with and acknowledge the expressions of emotion that the client is experiencing.

Positive Regard - The counselor, regardless of what the client believes, what they’ve done, or who they are, must hold the client in a positive light with sincerity.  If this cannot be maintained, the bereaved may sense negative “energy” from the counselor.

Genuine Attitude/Honesty - If a Metaphysical Counselor does not appear genuinely concerned about the client’s state, no trust, intimacy, or empathy can ever be achieved.  The counselor must possess the ability to focus on the client’s needs, the internal struggle of the bereaved, and the awakening that is taking place within the client.  This includes honesty, trust, boundaries, and the ability to say “I don’t know,” and not to make one’s self appear more than what one is to the client.

Self-Disclosure - This helps to prove sincerity on the part of the counselor.  Self-Disclosure is the ability to look at one’s own self and share within the boundaries of the counseling session as it relates to the client.  Caution must be exercised with Self-Disclosure, as the session relates to the client not the counselor.  Self-Disclosure should only take place when it specifically relates to the needs of the client.  This action can help the bereaved to recognize that they are not alone with the struggles in the world.  It increases hope and aids in restoring faith.

These four factors, along with basic counseling skills will help build a rapport with the client.  At all times, however, a Metaphysical Counselor must remember that the client sets the pace of the session.  Some problems, especially grief or low self-esteem must never be rushed.  Within the counseling sessions, the counselor maintains awareness that there is an internal struggle with a growing self-awareness taking place within the client.  When healing through grief, some of the struggles will be difficult for the client, others will not.  Growth is not always painful; however, it is an element of Metaphysical Counseling.

Dr. Huggins is a Graduate of The University of Metaphysics with a Doctoral Degree in Metaphysical Counseling and a Masters Degree in Metaphysical Science.  He is a co-founder of http://www.sekhemonline.net/.  Dr. Huggins also creates hand made spiritually-inspired art and gifts through Scintilla Artwork.